Practical Psychology for Everyday Life

Practical Psychology for Everyday Life uncertainty 1 I think one of the virtu solelyy important concepts I detectt from the lecture is the effect and influence of the non-verbal behaviors and verbiage, simply the people mostly want of awareness on them and create misunderstanding however discontent among both of us. These non-verbal behaviors seem to be non-signifi green goddesst in our everyday life, but they do satisfy a key role in daily communication. Even though non-verbal communication could only express simple thoughts and feelings, it indicates the true ideas and emotions.As verbal language some beat different from what we really think, for example, lying and overstating are typical models, these behaviors make up up more barriers and obstacles between peoples. Thus, understanding of these non-verbal behaviors helps us express us more clearly and beneficial for our relationships. Non-verbal behaviors appear everywhere, every moment even though they are common, but w e did not pay much attention. And it leads to twin of verbal and non-verbal behavior creating ambiguity, the original idea could not be sent.In the past, when I was talking to others, I used to look at anywhere but not the one I was chatting with, no matter teachers or classmates. Because of this conflicting behavior, I was viewed as an ill-mannered student. It took me years to realize and solve it. In this situation, even though I thought I was talking with my teachers with the most polite language I knew, but my non-verbal behavior crumbled it. It is also a typical problem nowadays youth might have, as electronic gad proposes become part of our life, most of us may focus on the smartphone in hand but not the friends around.Thus, the non-verbal behaviors reflect our manner, but wish of attention of these behaviors would be a worrying trend. Moreover, the non-verbal behaviors are indicators of our true feelings. In the past I wondered that how my sister could catch me when I was lying all the time. But later on, I discover that when I tell lies, I often shake my head. If we take a closer look to these nipper behaviors, it would be easier to find others true feelings and what they try to hide. It is also eneficial for our daily communication. only in all, the non-verbal behavior should match with the verbal language, if we want to express ourselves to other, so other would get our ideas clearly, it avoids the unnecessary arguing and guessing and helps us meeting with others more efficiently. Thus, non-verbal behavior should be taken a higher take of consideration. (Words for Q1 420) Question 2 Self-discrepancy could be varies as three major self- perceptions echt self, holy person self and ought self.This divergence defines us and shapes our personality as we look unity of these three perceptions. The unquestionable self represents the true qualities we acquired and what we really are. scorn this, some of us may omit it and pursue the ideal self, th e last qualities we desire. Besides that, ought self indicates the qualities that we should grab. Inspired by my mummy, a lady who powerfully influenced by the traditional ideas. Once suffered in the mismatch of ought self and developed self. She married a man who did not love her, leading to other unfortunate marriage.This man gambled and lost my mums hard-earned money, he get drunk every night and creating more domestic-violence. In this circumstance, it is definitely that she should strain help and get out him. But in the struggle between her tangible self the desire to leave and ought self the responsibility of a wife, her falter brings more pain and sadness. In this case, the actual self of my mum locomote short of her ought self, mixing the influence of the tradition ideas, she feels guilty when she tried to leave him.Besides that, the guilty remains even she left him for years, it lowers her self-esteem and makes her more fragile. From my mums experience, it reflec ts that the diversity between ought self and actual self can be deeply affect and change ones life. aside from the ought self, the ideal self seems to be the ultimate goal of ones actual self, but everyone has their own limit. In the past, I was forced to learn how to play piano because of my mums will. It was a difficult time for me as I found that I had no interest on piano or other instruments.In fact, I did try my best at the very beginning, but my fingers refused to dance on the piano keys but stomped on it. Later on, my mum started pushing me to play piano day by day, but the result just disappointing as usual. After some(prenominal) months, the monthly-long unsatisfactory outcome depressed me, at the same time, my academic results was declining as well. It illustrated the consequence caused by actual self fails to catch up with ideal self. Thankfully, my class teacher discovered it and discussed it with my mum, the piano measure was lifted and everything was fend for to nor mal.Thus, the objective we establish should be achievable and relevant with our own abilities and our actual self. The draw-backs of forcing yourself to do impossible tasks could be unrecoverable. In conclude, understanding of self is the obligatory for success, even though the desires and obligations may affect us. With the acknowledgement of ourselves, we erase our worry and take the duty. We find what our limits are and accept it and it pave the way to success. (Words for Q2 488)